How I finally succeeded and aligned my life and my desire
February 5, 2014
Turn intention into Action (weight loss and diets)
On a hot day in Los Angeles, California, I sat on the trunk on my car with my best friend on my right, and cried frustrated tears about my weight. I was eighteen. The pain I felt was the pain of my desire, my intentions being completely out of sync with my actions. I intended to be healthy, fit, glowing, toned, attractive, confident and thin. My action was a series of unsustainable diets, like the pineapple diet, pills, low carb, counting calories, weight watchers, slim fast, master cleanse and the 3 hour diet, to name a few.
In truth, my intention to be thin, overwhelmed everything else I wanted for myself. In fact, I sacrificed every single other goal for that one wish, to be thin. Every time I began a diet, I worsened my health, I ate according to some outside guide, that knew nothing about my life, my fitness needs, my lifestyle, my emotional challenges and so I would eventually cheat. Every time I would cheat, I would feel less attractive, less confident and fat. Can you relate to my pain?
The pain of a teenager eager to be acknowledged, a young girl who had spent 8 years already feeling the burden of fat? 12 years later I can cry with the young girl. I can weep for the humiliation she held deep in her heart. I can also tell her with complete honesty that it will all work out. Her deepest fears of being unattractive, unlovable, self destructive, and unhealthy are all unfounded. 12 years later I can hug her and say, you finally focused your attention on being confident, healthy, inspired, intellectually and spiritually challenged. In the process you became, healthy, fit, glowing, toned and maintaining a healthy weight.
I cannot tell her that I ever became thin. 12 years later I can whisper in her ear, that she will be loved by the best man she has ever known. The she will mother four children without carrying any extra weight. I can let her know that they too will love her and see her inner beauty as well as know that she is a beautiful mother. I can tell her that she has lost weight as the years have gone on, without sacrificing dessert or her love of cooking and eating.
What would you say to your struggling self? What will you say 12 years in your future?
Tun intention into action
Once a young girl looked at the starry sky
She cried the tears of her unrealized dreams
The actions of her life, goals pointless seem.
She yearns to progress, to transform to fly.
Silently her tears fall, her hearts cry.
She does not see love, her support, her team
She travels the balance, high on her beam.
About to fall, hands thrust out, help she must try.
With focused goals that bring her deepest joy
She dismounts proudly, flying light as a toy.
3 tips for turning your intention into action
1. Does your goal bring you real joy on its own?
2. Grab support from everywhere you can
3. Evaluate every choice, does this sacrifice make me happy?
When every step to a goal can be reframed and appreciated on its own as well as it contributes to your ultimate goal, moving from intention to action becomes progressively easier.When every step is aided by loving unconditional support, the necessary mistakes also bring you closer to your success.