People sometimes come up to me now and say, oh wait here is dessert, I know you don't eat that stuff anymore but...
Do you have to give up sweets and treats to maintain a lower healthy happy weight range?
It is a legit question. The answer is no. When I work with clients one on one, this is a definite mindset that usually comes up. 2b mindset calls the treats silly, but in 1-1 we talk about how Ok it is to be silly sometimes, but where is the line between a little silly fun and stress, anxiety regret and negativity.
I like to think of treats as by the bite. How many bites are worth it, I kind of rate things in my mind. This cookie is a no bite worthy treat, its the anti treat not satisfying and just the worst kind of silly. Now that cookie over there...
That cookie may be the kind of silly that is a great night out with girlfriends or a laugh at your kid's first taste of a lemon. Just too good to skip. But, how many bites does it take to get that experience to stay in the fun realm of silly and not into the laughing to hard to loud in a movie and feeling embarrassed kind of silly.
This maybe to complicated to mindful for you, alright. Keep it simple, at what bite will I resent or regret a gain on the scale tomorrow. Why the scale? because the difference of one cookie or two will not result in a physical reaction. You won't get sick, you won't feel bloated or exhausted or disgusting. It just maybe the difference between a weight loss day and a weight gain day or a weight loss day or a stay the same day. When you are making efforts to to get a specific result, then missing out on the positive result for one cookie doesn't feel silly it feels like a huge energy suck.
Something I love to do in 1-1 coaching is to help people discover their treat ninja skills. How they focus on what is most enjoyable and what works best for their body and stop feeling like a victim of a bad metabolism (no such thing) or deprived. For example, we all have treats we enjoy that just work, we are not tempted to over do them, they have super positive or built in associations of stopping points, versus treats that lend themselves by memory or association or packaging to being energy sucks instead of silly treats.
How can you start to learn your ninja skills? Well, start with a list of treats you love that you never over do, the one cookie recipe, ice cream flavor or only in a parlor, or only at a coffee shop or ... treats that are built in, enjoy and move on kind of treats. See how big can you make that list?
Then look at it, if you just ate from that list of treats on a regular basis would you feel deprived? If so why?
Let's the conversation going, find me on instagram @lilyaronin and tell me what you think.
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