When God Hands You a Toothpick: The Bitachon Lesson You Didn’t Know You Needed
- Lily Aronin
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Dear Friends,
This week’s Bitachon class left me with a lump in my throat and a heart that felt cracked open—in the best way possible.
We’re diving deeper into Gate of Trust together, and one of the biggest takeaways from this week was this: sometimes, the gift doesn’t come in beautiful wrapping. Sometimes it looks like a disappointment… or a rejection… or a "toothpick" when you were hoping for a diamond bracelet.
But what if the toothpick is the diamond?
The Wrapping Paper of Disappointment
In our conversation, we reflected on what it feels like when the outcome we thought we were working toward—earnestly, faithfully—doesn’t appear. Or worse, something else shows up entirely.
We shared a personal story about a painful disappointment I experienced this week. A group member was convinced she had been walking in faith, showing up, investing time, energy, and prayer. And then… nothing. Or what looked like nothing. And in that moment, the heartbreak didn’t feel holy. It felt like failure.
But here’s what we uncovered together: God doesn’t owe us the version of the story we wrote for ourselves. He’s writing a much more masterful one.
Trusting When It Feels Like a Test
In the class, one of the women shared that she couldn’t even bring herself to open her email inbox because of fear—fear of rejection, of failure, of more disappointment. And yet, she showed up to class.
That’s Bitachon. That’s trust.
It’s not the absence of fear—it’s showing up with it.
We explored the emotional exhaustion of holding it all, of doing “everything right,” and still not seeing the results. We looked at what it means to hand over the burden to Hashem, like uploading our heaviest files to the cloud, knowing they’ll be held.
And we asked: Can I trust that what I’m receiving is exactly what I need, even if I don’t recognize it yet?
The Truth About Spiritual Growth
We reminded ourselves that bitachon isn’t just about calm—it’s about clarity. It doesn’t mean we won’t cry, or scream, or resist. It means we bring all of that into the relationship with Hashem, rather than keeping Him at arm’s length.
There is no spiritual bypassing in this group. And I’m so grateful for that.
This week we moved from heartbreak to healing. From disappointment to dignity. From trying to earn God’s love to remembering we already have it.
Want to Go Deeper?
✨ I created a free PDF Study Guide for this week’s class. It’s a great way to reflect on the themes and apply them to your own life.📥
📺 You can also watch the full class recording on YouTube here:👉 [Watch Now –]
💬 And if you want to be part of our live weekly Bitachon class, or just join the community of women walking this path with deep honesty and faith, you are warmly invited.📲 [Join our WhatsApp group by invite only]
email me coachlilyaronin@gmail.com
We’re not meant to walk this journey alone. And the gifts we receive—however they’re wrapped—are never just for us.
They’re for the healing of the whole world.
With love, faith, and a full heart,
Lily